Divorce or Stay? Children Prefer Parents To Split Than Stay Together 'For The Kids'

A new survey that has recently been conducted finds that children and young people would rather want their parents separated than staying together for them if they are no longer happy with the relationship.

According to the research, parents that are no longer satisfied with their marriage but are staying together for the sake of the children may not be doing the best solution to protect the interest of the kids.

The poll suggests that people from 14 to 22 years old with parental separation experience would want their parents divorced than to go through living life together unhappily. They said that even if they were mad at the time it happened, they felt that the decision was ultimately better for them and for their parents.

In a report by The Guardian, 82 percent of young people that have gone through divorce were in favor of the decision their parents made. They also have a rather honest advice to divorcing parents, "Don't stay together for a child's sake, better to divorce than stay together for another few years and divorce on bad terms."

The chairman of the family law organization, Jo Edwards, said that the society's belief of parents staying together even if they are no longer happy to protect the children's best interest is no longer what these respondents would suggest.

"Being exposed to conflict and uncertainty about the future are what's most damaging for children, not the fact of divorce itself. This means it is essential that parents act responsibly, to shelter their children from adult disagreements and take appropriate action to communicate with their children throughout this process, and make them feel involved in key decisions, such as where they will live after the divorce," Edwards said, according to the Family Law website.

He added: "We should be supporting parents to choose an out of court divorce method, such as mediation or collaborative practice. This will help parents to maintain control over the divorce and ensure their children's needs are, and remain, the central focus."

In a report by DailyMail, it is stated that divorce is very expensive. It is suggested to avoid any conflict with one another and go with the out-of-court settlement which may only cost them a little compared to what they will be spending when they could not reach an agreement and go to court.

The news portal added that the separation is not what causes harm to the kids involved; it is the conflict that the kids will go through in the process.