Overcoming Fear: How Parental Attachment Can Help Kids Rise In The Face Of Fear
Fear is mostly presumed to be something negative. Many fail to realize the very clear positive side of it. Fear is naturally instilled inside every human being. It helps people learn how to react in sudden situations and how to protect themselves in dangerous times.
It makes sure that people stay long enough to pass on their genes. What matters is how people handle it. Fear can have a directly negative impact initially. A person may become sleepless, aggressive and extremely panicked at the time.
But it's only natural to be scared of new encounters. Nervousness hits to the bones when someone experiences a completely new environment. That includes seemingly simple things such as joining a new school or a college perhaps. So, it's completely understandable if a child goes off-track for fear of joining school.
Even as adults, people depend on their loved ones and no person can survive completely alone without being succumbed to extreme depression, which may even lead to death. In the same way a child needs a caretaker and love from his adults in order to feel safe and protected.
The Parenting magazine claims that without this special connection, a feeling of powerlessness grows. It may also instil a negative sense of fear in a child and their brain may limit the possibilities of growth and success.
Retaliation in response to the damage to the connection with their loved ones, is different for all children. Some may just burst into tears, like infants, and some may completely start losing their self-control, cooperation skills and reasonings.
According to the Hand In Hand magazine, expressing fear in front of a child can help him overcome fear and become confident. Some healthy ways of expression are laughing, crying, trembling, struggling and throwing tantrums.
After these the brain returns back to normal and the sense of security returns. Keeping the emotions stored inside at that time would make it harder to manage them in the future when they rise up all of a sudden, in some situation, to interfere with multiple aspects of life.
Thus, the responsibility lies on the shoulders of the guardian of the child to support him and hear him out instead of discouraging him from expressing. Laughing out loud with the child, listening to him and being close when he cries and is sad, spending time and showing love and attention are ways of keeping the child on the right track by lowering his stress and fear of being unsafe.
It also helps in making the child brave, witty and smart enough to handle complicated life situations in the future. He would feel a sense of self confidence and freedom inside him. A drive to strive more!