Tips on Solving Your Kids' Shy Behavior

Jamie Buss

By Staff Reporter , Parent Herald Mar 08, 07:11 pm

Some kids may really have a hard time dealing with other people, even with fellow young individuals. Most of the time, they are only active and talkative when around family members but they become reserved and hesitant when dealing with other individuals.

Mother Jamie Buss mentioned in her article on Democrat and Chronicle that she has a middle child who is "extremely shy" in school but active and playful when she comes home. She admitted that she was given the challenge to help her child overcome shyness.

Buss said it is always important to set the expectations of your children on a new environment and exposures so that they will not be shocked with any situation. "If you are visiting family or friends, manners are important, but don't force them to do more than they're comfortable with - like hugging, for instance," she added.

It was also suggested that parents should encourage their kids to socialize with people other than family members. Buss said inviting friends over for dinner or study sessions would be a good start.

On the other hand, Ask DrSears noted that putting a kid on the spot during special gatherings could sometimes fuel their shyness more. It explained that though some children want to show off their talents, there are also those who want to "guard" and keep them first. They are certainly not comfortable letting other people see what they can do.

The same report claimed that it would also be best if parents would recognise he reservations of their kids and accept them for who they are. Though shy kids find it hard to deal with others, they remain to be happy and caring individuals.

There is also no need to pressure your child into socializing with others. Sometimes the more you push them, the more they get reserved to deal with other people in their surroundings.