How to Discuss Downsizing with Your Parents

There may come a time in your parents' life when the old family home is too much for them.

A large home requires ongoing maintenance, which can become emotionally, physically or financially burdensome. The sheer amount of clutter that accumulates over a life time in inaccessible parts of the home, like the basement, closet or attic, can be tough to manage and feel overwhelming.. And the outside landscaping, allowed to overgrow for even a season, can quickly become unsightly..

It made sense when the whole family lived there, and when your parents were spry enough for the daily upkeep, but now the house is impractical and potentially hazardous. How do you approach your parents about downsizing? 

Moving can be a challenging prospect for some older adults. Especially if they have lived in their home for many years, they may associate the house with fond memories, comfort and stability. If you believe downsizing is what's best for your parents or loved ones, the best course of action is an open, honest discussion that involves experts. 

In this article, let's look at a few key considerations when discussing downsizing. 

Nothing Needs to Happen Suddenly

It should be stressed that this is not an immediate or jarring process. Unless it absolutely needs to be done quickly (as in the case of increasing fall risks or other immediate concerns for safety, the move can be an event for which you plan meticulously. 

Think about the move empathetically. If you were asked to change your living situation, you would also want time to process the idea, acclimatize to the change and get excited about moving. Just that simple gesture - stressing to your parents that this doesn't have to happen right away - can be a major psychological salve. 

The first step isn't to box everything up and hit the road. The first step is to consult the experts.

Consult with a Professional Downsizing Company

In times of change, having a confident, steady hand at the wheel is of paramount importance. In all likelihood, neither you nor your parents have navigated a move of this size, so it's important that you consult with experts. 

A professional concierge downsizing company like NEATSPACES can help facilitate the move, taking the lead on space planning, packing and unpacking, selling or donating unwanted items, moving, and cleaning and renovating the house once vacated. And, of course, everything is done with your guidance and final say. Family photos, correspondence, legal documents, money, jewellery and anything unique to your family story is set aside for family review. Professional downsizing companies offer a turnkey solution that takes the stress of moving off your - and your parents' - plate 

Be as Open and Honest as Possible

Why do you think moving would be a good idea for them? What, in particular, are they anxious about regarding the move? The more that's left unsaid, the harder the process can be. 

If you think that moving them to a new home would allow them to discover a new community, say so. If you think it would be better for them to be closer to activities they love, like golf courses and recreational centers, mention it.  If you simply want them to move closer to you so you can spend more time together, express that. If you are afraid of them falling or have other safety concerns be honest.

And when it comes time to listen, actively listen. Internalize their hesitations and concerns, empathize and work together to brainstorm solutions. 

With open and honest dialogue, a reasonable timeline that works for everyone along with an expert, professional downsizing company, moving your parents into an exciting new chapter of their lives can be easy and worry-free.