Back-to-School Necklace: Why Parents Need to Probe the Dark Meaning Behind this Trend

On the surface, parents who hear their kids talk about buying a back-to-school necklace might assume it's about a cute fashion staple or a piece of friendship jewelry. However, the phrase has a dark and concerning meaning behind it that parents must discuss with their children.

Some kids use the term "back-to-school necklace" in their conversations casually. While it might sound innocent, it is actually a cry for help.

The phrase is a slang reference for a noose. According to Closer, it is code for kids feeling utter despair about the pressures of school life to the point that they want to take their own life.

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How should parents approach their kids?

Suicide is such a profound and sensitive subject that, understandably, many parents would grapple with how best to approach and open this conversation with their children without missteps.

In an interview with Parade, social worker Samantha Westhouse said that a parent might simply start the conversation by telling their son or daughter that they've heard of this back-to-school necklace trend and then ask them if they know anything about it. She said to keep the conversation open and without any judgment or an accusatory tone so that the kids will be comfortable about opening up.

Another social worker, Emily Cavaleri, said parents should feel empowered to discuss mental health with their kids. Checking in matters a lot to their children. It might also help to share personal stories about their challenges and school struggles.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Malie Coyne said that a family's language of feelings, where their negative emotions are heard and validated, will make it easier for the kids to open up to their parents about anything, not just school struggles or mental health. Coyne also said it would not make kids suicidal if their parents broached the topic of suicide. The parents need to unpack what's making them upset in school.

The expert also said that teenagers are often easier to talk to during "side-to-side communication on walks" instead of long, sit-down sessions. If the kids say they need to be alone, it does not mean they don't want to talk. However, the parents must let them know they are just there if their children are ready to open up.

How will parents know their kids are troubled?

Coyne shared the key behaviors to watch out for if their children are suffering in silence, according to Good To Know. They often withdraw and no longer participate in family activities, or their sleeping and eating routines may be out of sync.

They could also exhibit mood swings and odd behaviors like the use of alcohol and drugs. Parents also need to be on the lookout for signs of self-harm, which they could be covering up with the clothes they wear.

The doctor believes that siblings are vital to help their brother or sister cope with the pressures of school. She makes it a habit to remind her kids to check up on each other, especially if they are out with their friends or peers.

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