First-Time Dad Tips: Laboring Moms Need to Be Told They Are Doing a Great Job

First-Time Dads labor Childbirth Words of Encouragement

By Camille Hutchison , Parent Herald Nov 25, 08:23 pm

As an expectant dad to a woman in labor, the most significant role dads can offer is providing moms support and encouragement, especially during the entire childbirth process. Before your partner's labor and delivery, ensure that you fully understand the different labor stages to know how to time the contractions and when to head to the hospital.

Make sure you have already discussed the birth plan with your partner. When in the delivery room, you serve as the primary source of comfort, so you must always stay supportive, confident, and calm so you won't give any adverse emotion to your partner, making them scared and nervous about delivering the baby.

According to data published by Baby Center, women who have support during childbirth tend to have more positive outcomes. Supporting your partner during labor is an exciting and vital role for dads. So, men, especially first-time dads, must be informed that they should stay with their partner during the process as they contribute to shorter labor times and reduced medical intervention during the said process.

Words of encouragement during the childbirth

As a partner to a woman in labor, one of the contributions you can offer is words of encouragement. Remember that your partner's status is risky; thus, words of encouragement are only one of the things you can do.

Although you might view words of encouragement as simple, for pregnant moms, it's beyond meaningful and reminds them that they have you, especially during those times.

Here are some words of encouragement you can say to your partner while they are in labor or delivery:

I love you
I am here; keep going
You're doing an excellent job
Just a bit more
Hang in there!

These are some phrases that provide ample support without giving moms massive pressure. Nonetheless, never overuse the phrase "hang in there!" as it may backfire.

Some dads may feel scared when they witness labor or childbirth. However, remember that whatever happens, you must not leave your partner and support them as much as possible.

Very Well Family notes that words of encouragement can make a meaningful difference, especially if it comes from their partner (dad), as childbirth is beyond exhausting, physically and emotionally, so many women have to dig deep to seek the essential strength.

Thus, what you tell your partner in the labor and delivery room can surely go a long way toward helping her cope.

Know what to expect during labor

Before entering the room with your partner, you must know what to do. Aside from giving them words of encouragement, make sure that you pack the essential things your partner will need, such as clothes, any needed medicines, a hygiene kit, some sustaining snacks that have no strong odors, and more.

Consider that your partner is in labor, meaning she's not in the best condition to make certain decisions or assertive requests. Thus, as her partner, ensure you're always ready to step in if the situation calls for it.

Except for the doctor, midwife, and nurses, you have a significant role, particularly when helping your wife get comfortable and communicating her particular wishes, per Baby Center.