TikTok's Voluntary Celibacy Trend: Why Some Singles Are Choosing to Wait Longer

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By E.Baloyo , Parent Herald Mar 31, 10:49 am

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TikTok's voluntary celibacy trend is creating a safe space on the platform to share very personal choices in dating.

The dating scene has changed, and so have the attitudes towards sex. Many singles in the United States are opting to wait longer to have sex, or even choosing celibacy.

As per Bustle, Match's 2022 Singles in America study shows that 69% of singles prefer to wait longer than the first three dates to have sex, and 36% are willing to wait even longer than they did before the pandemic.

This shift in attitude has given rise to the voluntary celibacy trend, which is gaining popularity on TikTok.

TikTok's voluntary celibacy trend

Voluntary celibacy is a personal decision to abstain from sex or sexual activities for a certain period of time or indefinitely.

The reasons for choosing celibacy vary from person to person, and there is no right or wrong reason.

Some people want to focus on their career goals, while others believe that potential partners will take them more seriously if they abstain from sex for a while.

Over the past few months, TikTok has become the hub of the voluntary celibacy trend.

According to The List, the hashtag #voluntarycelibacy has over 163 million views, with countless videos of people sharing their experiences and reasons for choosing celibacy.

Some users share hilarious stories about why they've decided to abstain, while others talk about the benefits of celibacy.

While some people find the trend relatable and inspiring, others are opposed to it.

Some argue that the trend is spreading the idea that sex gets in the way of a meaningful life and clouds our judgment.

They believe that celibacy is not the only way to make clear and well-thought-out decisions.

The benefits of waiting longer to have sex

Dating coach Aly McDonald recommends waiting to have sex until you're exclusive or in a full-on relationship with the other person.

According to her, having sex can confuse your feelings. Oxytocin, the bonding hormone, is released during sex and makes you think you're more attracted and connected to the person than you really are.

According to McDonald, sex can be enjoyable, but it also triggers a biological attachment that one may not be prepared for.

She suggests that at the beginning of a relationship, it's best to stay in "observation mode," where you're getting to know the person like an interview for a potential life partner.

However, if sex enters the picture before there is a commitment, it can lead to stronger feelings and attachments, which can cloud one's judgment and make it difficult to see things clearly.

Waiting longer to have sex can also have other benefits, such as:

Building emotional intimacy and trust with the person
Reducing the risk of STDs and unintended pregnancies
Allowing you to focus on yourself and your personal goals

According to Cosmopolitan, the voluntary celibacy movement on social media is gaining momentum as a TikTok trend, with many people sharing their experiences and reasons for choosing celibacy.

While some may not agree with the trend, it's important to respect people's personal choices.

Waiting longer to have sex or choosing celibacy is a valid decision that doesn't need justification.

If it's something you're considering, take the time to think about your reasons and motivations, and make the right decision for you.