How To Respond to Challenging Toddler Behaviors like Whining, Tantrums, and Screaming

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By E.Baloyo , Parent Herald Dec 24, 12:10 am

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Parenting challenging toddler behavior can be a lot for parents and guardians to take in. Parenting these little humans might sometimes make you feel a whirlwind of emotions in a very short period of time.

The whines, tantrums, and screaming could fill the entire room, making parents sometimes feel so overwhelmed. These kids could also test your patience. However, despite these troubling phases, here are some strategies to figure out and better alleviate the situation with your toddlers.

Understanding the 'Why' Behind the 'Cry'

It is important to understand children and what it is like to be in their shoes. Toddlers use behaviors like tantrums as a language. They're not just acting out; they're communicating.

They might be hungry, tired, or just want that red toy they can't reach. Remember, their world is as big as what they can see and feel at the moment.

Tips in Handling Challenging Toddler Behaviors

Stay Cool, Captain!

Your reaction is your toddler's cue. If they throw a tantrum and you respond with your own version of an adult tantrum, it will not resolve the problem, and it just further escalates the heat. Take a deep breath, remember kindness, count to ten, or think about how much you love your child - staying calm is your first step to de-escalating the situation.

'I Hear You, Little One'

Validation works wonders, not just with adults but even with kids. Saying, "I see you're really upset about not getting another cookie," helps them feel understood and secure. It's like magic-sometimes, just being heard can calm down the whining and screaming.

The Art of Boundaries

Kids and chaos go hand in hand, but setting boundaries brings order to the chaos. Be clear about what's okay and what's not, and stick to them. Even if this means denying them or saying no to something, it will be beneficial for both the child and the parents to start building healthy boundaries little by little at a young age.

Look, a Squirrel!

Distraction is a key tactic in your arsenal. If you sense a tantrum brewing because they can't have a toy, quickly shift their attention to something else-maybe a game or a different toy. Sometimes, all it takes is a new focus.

Words Over Wails

Teach them to use words instead of wails. Encourage your toddler to express what they want or feel. It's a slow process, but it lays the foundation for effective communication in the long run.

Consistency is Your Anchor

Mixed signals are a no-go. If you say 'no cookies before dinner' today, stick to it tomorrow. Consistency helps your toddler understand and respect boundaries.

Self-care: Your Life Jacket

Lastly, amidst managing tantrums and meltdowns, don't forget to take care of yourself. A relaxed, happy parent is better equipped to handle challenging behaviors.

Redirecting Attention

Redirection is a powerful tool. If a tantrum is brewing or your child starts to whine about something they can't have, try to shift their focus. Engage them in a different, preferably fun activity. This change in focus can often stop challenging behaviors before they escalate.

Over time, encouraging the use of words can gradually reduce tantrums and screaming. Teach your child to express their needs and feelings with words. This skill-building takes time but is fundamental to helping them navigate their emotions and desires more effectively.

Remember, every storm passes. Toddlers grow up, and the phase of challenging behaviors like tantrums and screaming will evolve into new adventures.

Stay patient, consistent, and understanding. Your little one is learning from you with every reaction you give. So, steer your ship with love and care, and enjoy the journey of parenthood-it's quite the adventure!