7 Common Reasons for Children's Tears: Ways To Help Your Crying Kids in Calming Down

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By Jackelyn Cornejo , Parent Herald Mar 28, 01:40 am

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Deciphering why a child is crying can be difficult; as they grow older, the reasons behind their tears become more complex compared to infancy. Older children cry due to numerous factors such as stress, fatigue, and others.

7 Common Causes of Children's Tears

Child Is Exhausted

When children (or adults) are tired, their bodies discharge added adrenaline and cortisol to maintain alertness. These hormones, also discharged in response to stress, can increase irritation and lead to tears, explains Dawn Huebner, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author.

Additionally, a child's still-developing reasoning centers make it challenging to control impulses and feelings when they're weary.

If you determine that tears are due to tiredness, prioritize getting your child into bed quickly instead of negotiating or convincing them otherwise.

Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, a clinical child psychologist, suggests reconsidering your family's sleep priorities if exhaustion-related tears are frequent.

Child Is Overwhelmed

Study shows that about 20% of people have sensory processing sensitivity (SPS), making them more conscious of sounds, lights, and commotion. Children with SPS can become affected in loud or chaotic situations, leading to tears.

It's essential to recognize that crying can be beneficial for kids, notes Dr. Huebner. Rather than trying to stop the tears, help the child determine their feelings and offer support.

Child Is in Pain

Children may cry in response to discomfort, whether promptly or predicted. Physical touch, such as a hug, can release oxytocin, a natural pain reliever, while distraction and empathy can help relieve fear of future pain.

Child Is Hungry

Hunger is a usual cause of crying in children, as low blood sugar levels can lead to irritation and emotional dysregulation. Giving regular meals and snacks, especially for hunger-sensitive children, can help avoid meltdowns.

Child Feels Remorse

As children flourish empathy, they may cry when they realize they've hurt someone or done something wrong. Teaching them how to make amends and reassuring them of your love can support them navigate these feelings.

Child Is Scared

Fear is a natural feeling that can cause tears in children, especially when something sudden or overpowering happens. Offering understanding and reassurance can assist in calming their fears and give them a sense of safety.

Child Is Angry

Children may cry when they feel disappointed or unjustly treated. Empathizing with their emotions and affirming their feelings can make them feel accepted and supported.

Ways To Help Your Crying Kids in Calming Down

Getting children to stop crying can depend on the hidden cause of their tears.

Provide Comfort: Give a hug, soothing words, or a physical touch to encourage them.
Listen: Reassure them to convey their feelings and listen carefully without judgment.
Identify the Cause: Try to recognize why they're upset by asking questions or noticing their environment.
Offer Distraction: Engage them in various activities or divert their attention to something positive.
Problem-Solve Together: Assisting them in finding solutions to their problems or address the issue causing disappointment.
Validate Their Feelings: Recognize their emotions and let them know it's okay to feel dismayed.
Stay Calm: Remain cool and calm to give a sense of safety and security.
Set Limits: If the crying is due to outbursts or unreasonable demands, set clear boundaries and require them calmly.
Teach Coping Skills: Encourage healthy coping methods such as deep breathing, counting, or taking a break.