Should You Friend Your Child On Facebook? 1 In 3 Teens Are 'Friends' With Mom

For better or for worse, social media mogul Facebook recently revealed in a review that 1 in 3 teenagers are Facebook friends with their moms, as reported by Fox News.

With a site that has over 1 billion users, author of "New New Media" and professor at Fordham University, Paul Levinson, confirmed that a staggering number of kids and mothers keeping in touch through social media.

"Facebook has been a boon to family relationships," he said.

While it may seem good that kids and teens are letting their parents keep tabs on their social profiles, assistant professor of communications at LaSalle University in Philadelphia, Kelly McBride, said that teens often take down the racy stuff on sites like Facebook and Instagram before allowing their parents access.

Although kids may be willing to "friend" their parents, McBride said that "when they do, they take down the drinking or partying or suggestive photographs."

Since it first granted access to high schoolers and those 13 and older as well as college kids in 2005, Facebook has been the online epicenter for social media and sharing, replacing formerly popular sites like Myspace. 

CEO of the Washington D.C.-based Family Online Safety Institute, Stephen Balkam, told Fox News that he was his 13-year-old daughter's first Facebook "friend."

"I promised not to stalk her, but I do need to keep an eye on it," he said. 

Facebook said that 13-year-olds "are the most likely group to initiate a friendship with a parent, with more than 65 percent of those friendships being initiated by the child, people in their 20s are the least likely, initiating just 40 percent of the friendships with their parents."

However, parenting expert Susan Newman advised that parents wait until their children are "independent adults" before adding them as a friend. While it may be tempting to want to keep tabs on your kids through Facebook, Newman equated friending your teenage son or daughter with reading their diary.

"Adolescents are trying to develop an identity and they have so much hovering and helicopter parenting going on," she said. "Facebook adds another layer that seems to be very intrusive."

Rochelle Knoller of Fair Lawn, N.J., mother to 29-year old Josh Knoller, admitted that in the early days of her online relationship with her son, things proved to be difficult.

"I'd write a comment, and literally no sooner would I type when the phone would ring and it would be Josh -- I guess he's on Facebook a lot -- and he'd be telling me, 'Mom, you can't make comments like this. My friends can't even believe we're friends," she told Fox News. "Today we're pretty much down to where I' m allowed to 'like' something, and I'm allowed to go on his Facebook page and see what's going on with him, but that's it."

Josh Knoller agreed that the two "got into some pretty big fights over [Facebook]."

"I love my Mom to death," he said. "But she's a crazy, sweet Jewish mother and I was a little worried about what she might post in front of my closest friends."

Are you friends with your kids on Facebook? Do you think it's appropriate or a bit intrusive? Tell us in the comments below!

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