The Rules of Effortless Parenting: Teaching Your Child to be More Independent

Almost everyone says that parenting is one of the most challenging and grueling tasks any person can undergo, but this does not apply to Eva and Leo Babauta. In a recent post on Zen Habits they explain the principles of what they call "Effortless Parenting."

In his post, Leo shares what he deems to be the "Very Important Rules" in Effortless Parenting. He says they "must never be broken by any Serious Parent ... until, of course, you want to break them. The first rule of Rules of Effortless Parenting is that you should always break rules."

Aside from that Babauta says there is only one other rule: love your children. He then goes into detail with this rule saying that the first thing to take in mind is teaching kids to be self-sufficient. This made their jobs "tons easier," they say. If done properly, it could make parenting easier for you as well.

Babauta also tells parents to teach their older kids to help younger kids. This can take a large portion of the workload off the parents and teaches adolescents how to be good role models. This rule is golden according to the Good Men Project.

 It is also important to teach kids how to solve their own problems. If parents do this, then their child can learn the necessary skills they need to solve problems. Parents should also teach their children how to be passionate when it comes to the things they do. The more they enjoy, the better they will perform.

Babauta states the importance of playing outside and keeping active as well. Spending time with your kids shows them that you love them and that you care about them. However, do not over schedule and make your child attend too many parties, classes, and sporting events.

Also, "don't dote," says Babauta. You should give your child space if you want them to be more independent. The next rule of effortless parenting is to dance. Sometimes, you just need to play loud music with your kids and go a little bit wild.

Next, they say it is important to read with your children and to read in front of them. And finally, the last rule is to be inquisitive. Parents should ask a lot of questions and should encourage their children to do the same. "Don't just give them answers, but show them how to find out," said Babauta.