Divorce Is Better for Children [Experts Say]

In the United States, the divorce rate reaches forty to fifty percent every year. Not all divorce ends nicely. Most of the stories heard about divorce are tragic ones.

Several types of research have acknowledged that divorce affects children.

However, some experts say that divorce is not always going to end messy, and children do not become dysfunctional because of the divorce.

Sometimes, divorce can be a better option for children.

There are signs to look out for to know if divorce is better for children. Also, there are ways on how parents are doing divorce better nowadays.

Signs that divorce is better for children

Here are some of the signs that would indicate that divorce is better for children:

Children start misunderstanding love

Children are naturally observant; they learn from what they see around them. If they grow up not seeing their parents being affectionate, they will also misunderstand the concept of love. That may lead to children feeling awkward in topics like dating or relationships.

When this time comes, it should raise some red flags to parents, which may indicate that divorce is better for children.

Any of the spouses is ambitionless

As mentioned, children learn from what they see around them. When they see their parents losing interest in their ambitions, this may cause children to wonder and question what they see. 

Setting a good example is essential in how children will put together their outlook in life. That is why if one of the parents is turning ambitionless, divorce sounds live a better option for the children.

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Positive outcomes of divorce

Divorce is also seen to bring positive outcomes for children. Some of these are:

Children become flexible

While the divorce is happening, it causes children to become adaptable in different situations and changes that come their way. 

Children learn how to create strategies that will make every situation easier to bear for them.

Aside from becoming resilient, children also learn how to become self-sufficient. 

Children develop empathy

Children also learn how to become sensitive to what others feel because they begin to understand the difficulties their parents go through. 

At an early age, children also understand the importance of marriage and how much is at stake.

Children spend more time with each parent

Because of the divorce, it provides more opportunities for parents and children to bond. Specifically, fathers were proven to spend more time with their children after the divorce.

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How divorce would work 

For a divorce to work not only for ex-partners but also for their children, some ways could be followed. Here are some of those, according to Parents.com:

More thoughtful arguments 

The words argument and thoughtful are two words that do not seem to go well in one sentence. However, according to reports, parents opt to do this instead of involving divorce lawyers in the process.

That way, the children will be kept out of the arguments, and lesser conflicts are bound to happen.

Better cooperation 

Nowadays, parents who went through a divorce learn that the adults and not the children should carry the burden. Because of that, they learn to cooperate in every situation so that children will not have a difficult time while going through the process.

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