Lies About Sex: Things That Are Told to Students to Encourage Abstinence

In sex education, students were told lots of lies about sex.

Truth be told, a student was taught in her public school that if ever she had sex before marriage, her vagina will transform or look like that shape of that man, and her future husband will not be satisfied since he will not fit right.

That may sound absurd, and another of those lies about sex. However, considering that a young woman could have heard this from an authority figure, she believed it was true. The reason and the point of telling these lies about sex were to stop the young woman from having sex before marriage. And although the lies about sex prevented the youth from engaging in sex, apparently, it also scared them about sex in general. 

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Here are some bizarre yet real and lies about sex that students were told in their sex education for your information. 

Virgins and STDs

A teacher asked the class to write whether or not they were virgins on a slip of paper. The teacher then told the level that for those girls who were not virgins, they would likely have STDs and would not be able to finish school. 

Another of those lies about sex that they tell in sex education is this. A young woman reported that her sex education teacher said to her that if she ever had sex before her marriage, she would most certainly have STD, get pregnant, then have an ectopic pregnancy where she or her baby would die.

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Sex education in different states

From all of the lies in sex that authorities, like teachers, told their students for their sex education is that sex before marriage is dangerous. Lies about sex are being taught in sex education because this is in line with many states' mandates.

Twenty-nine states require that abstinence in sex be emphasized, and 19 states require teaching the instruction about the importance of engaging in any sexual activity only within marriage to be provided. It is not unusual and uncommon for teachers to tell lies about sex in their sex education class because of mandates like these.

However, they did not know the effects of these lies about sex that they are telling the students. The authorities need to understand that shame and sex do not mix well with each other, and the result can lead to a lot of nasty sex and bad feelings. 

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The lie about sex being harmful is not valid. Studies have shown that there is no evidence about consensual sex among adolescents before marriage is psychologically detrimental. Also, many reviews say that both abstinence and contraception will be more effective in reducing the teenage pregnancy rate and STI rates. 

There is a wide gap between the number of states that require sex education and the number of conditions that specify that the information provided needs to be medically accurate, that leaves other parts of the country totally in the dark. Education is a human right and precise information about how bodies work matters. So, stop lying to the youth. Teach them the right and accurate information. 

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