Understanding Tantrums in Order To Tame Them

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Tantrums in toddlers can be very frustrating for parents, but instead of treating them as disasters, rather treat them as room for learning. 

Tantrums may come in many forms, and parents must be aware of them. Tantrums can be through anger, frustrations, and untimely behavior from the things they don't get. When your toddlers are in tantrums, parents may often see them crying very loud, kicking, running away, and sometimes toddlers hold their breath.  And this commonly happens to toddlers age 1 to 3 years old. 

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Tantrums usually happen when your child reaches the second stage of your toddler's life. When they start developing their language, parents must understand that their kids are having tantrums because they can't clearly say yet what they need or want. Like the moment when their language skills slowly improve, in time, their tantrums will decrease. 

On the other hand, parents must understand that toddlers are typical in experimenting and exploring what they want to do. That is why some of their behavior while exploring new things is misbehavior for parents. Your toddlers are wishing to be independent but cannot do so, leading them to frustration. That's when tantrums arise. 

We have listed below the things parents need to understand why their toddlers are having tantrums. And why they should take tantrums as a challenge for the development of their kids. 

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Tantrums in toddlers and what parents need to know


There are options parents can consider in doing to lessen tantrum episode on their kids;

  • Children suffering from too much stress, hungry and tired are most likely to have tantrums. To lessen the things that stress them, feed them often. 
  • Understand the feelings of your child. If you happen to know their emotion, it would be easy for you to interpret what they need. Start by asking how they are doing. 
  • Identify the things that trigger your child to tantrums and avoid doing it again. 
  • Let your child understand emotion and let them express it. Talk with your child and explain emotions. 


As a parent, you must keep your composure when responding to your toddlers' tantrums. Keep reminding yourself that you are there to help them and not complicate their feelings. 

Tantrums can be attended to in many different ways; give your child comfort if that's what they need, and if your child is hungry, then feed them, or sometimes you need to ignore them and give them a new activity to distract. 

Whenever your toddlers' tantrums trigger in public places and are about to harm themselves, it would be best to bring them to a quiet place and calm them down. Importantly, do not show them that their tantrums are effective and don't give in. 


They are still developing their communication and language skills at the toddler stage, so do not assume that your kids understand every word you give to them. Sometimes when parents give their child instruction and they do not follow it may lead to frustration and tantrums because we insist on our words to them. As an adult, you must guide them in every step and in every way. 

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