TikTok Mom Raises 5 Daughters to Believe That Virginity Is Not a Big Deal

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By Lilian Scott , Parent Herald Nov 30, 11:37 am

Cayce LaCorte, a TikTok mom, has shared to her followers that she is not raising her five daughters to put so much value in virginity. Her unpopular parenting opinion has gained a lot of approval and appreciation.

According to reports, LaCorte was responding to a challenge posted by another TikTok mom, Nevada Shareef, who asked other parents to name one way they are raising their children that may sound weird for others, "but you think is healthy." LaCorte participated by starting her message with the knowledge that she may get a lot of flak for saying that "there is no such thing as virginity."

The mother of five then explained that she believes that the concept of virginity is a "patriarchal concept" meant to "control women." She added that a woman doesn't lose her worth if she loses her virginity at some point in her life.

Sex Is a Big Deal

LaCorte said that instead of teaching her daughters such a "ridiculous" concept, she's letting them understand that sex, and not virginity, is a big deal. She said that other moms had been concerned about her approach, and she was asked if she was not worried that her daughters would be promiscuous.

However, the mom believes that she's instilling the right values in her girls so they can make "intelligent choices" at the right time. She doesn't want her daughters to associate their moral characters based on their sexual activity.

LaCorte said that the most important thing she's imparting to her daughters is that sex should be consensual with someone they choose to be with. She believes that her girls can have a healthy relationship with someone willing to talk about protection, their discomforts about a physical relationship, and what they are into. If none of these criteria are present in their relationship, then it's not sex but molestation or a violation.

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Some of LaCorte's followers praised her, especially the victims of rape who realized that they were not soiled. A pastor's wife also said that the labels referring to virgins and the "purity culture" should end because losing one's virginity is not a sin.

Understanding Sex Trends Among the Youth

A 2015 study on sex trends among teenagers showed that the average teenage boy has his first sexual encounter at 16.9 years old while the average teenage girl loses her virginity at 17.2 years old. The average teenage boy's first sex is with a woman who is at least six months older than him, while the average teenage girl's first partner is usually a boy who is at least a year older.

Most girls lose their virginity in college, while many boys start being sexually active in high school. Some factors that lead to young people having sex before they are ready include a lack of education from their home or school.

One in 4 kids surveyed in this study said that their parents have never talked to them about sex. At least half of the teenagers said they were never taught how to say "no" to sexual advances or develop ideas about consent.