Friendship is a big part of growing up, but for many kids today, making friends isn't as easy as it used to be. Recent studies show that almost one in five parents worry their child has no friends or just a few, and most kids say they wish they had more friends.
The reasons for these struggles are different for every child—some are shy, others feel left out by groups that already know each other, and some just don't have enough chances to meet new people.
It's easy for parents to feel worried or even helpless when their child is lonely. However, there are several practical steps parents can take to help their children build the friendships they want and need. Here are five things you can do if your child is having trouble making friends:
1. Talk and Listen
Start by having open conversations with your child about how they feel. Ask gentle questions about their day, who they spend time with, and what makes them happy or sad about their friendships. Listening without judging or jumping in with solutions helps your child feel understood and supported.
2. Arrange Playdates and Social Opportunities
Sometimes kids just need more chances to meet others. Arrange playdates, sign them up for group activities, or encourage them to join clubs or sports teams. Even if your child is shy, being in a relaxed setting with just one or two other kids can make it easier to connect.
3. Encourage Real-World Activities
With so much time spent on screens, it's important to encourage face-to-face activities. Plan family outings, trips to the park, or board game nights. These moments help kids practice social skills in a safe space and remind them that fun doesn't always happen online.
4. Teach Social Skills
Some children need extra help learning how to start a conversation, share, or solve disagreements. Practice these skills at home through role-playing or by talking about what to do in different situations. Praise your child when you notice them trying to be friendly or brave.
5. Be Supportive, But Don't Take Over
While it's natural to want to step in, experts say it's best to guide your child without taking control. Let them try to solve problems on their own, but be there to cheer them on and offer advice when they ask. This helps build confidence and teaches them how to handle social ups and downs.
Making friends can be tough for kids, especially today, but your support can make a big difference. By listening, creating opportunities, encouraging offline fun, teaching social skills, and letting your child take the lead, you're helping them grow into happier, more confident people. Remember, friendship takes time—and every small step counts.
