'Thou-Art-A-Sinner': Violating The Rules Of Parenting Correctness

According to John Rosemond, a family psychologist, consequences should be employed whether they work or not. The status quo of parenting is pretty different from that of the past affairs.

Back in the times, certain misbehavior was dealt with common sense by stopping a problem before it developed into something bigger. Nowadays, the only way to correct the behavior is to state an appropriate punishment for the misconduct.

However, for this method to work, parents have to have a firm attitude. According to Chieftain, there has to be enough authority visible to the child so that they take the consequence seriously. If such an approach is missing, the punishment won't stand a chance. On that note, consequences might not even be needed if the parents have enough control over their kids.

Moreover, there are two parenting correctness rules that have to be violated for this technique to succeed. It's not every time that the rules work. And in this case scenario, the parenting strategies have to be modified to eliminate bad behavior.

According to Columbia Tribune, the greater the penalty, the quicker the child corrects his manners. So the consequence of the wrong act should be so dreadful that the child has no other option but to abide by the guidelines that the parents have set.

Another rule is that the consequence should be such that a child can predict it. It is believed that if a kid can guess what will happen afterward, he/she may not do the act at all. Though, that is not what happens. The child may prepare himself for what is to come and no matter how worse the punishment is; he'll hold no fear against it once he's ready. Parents shouldn't go by the rulebook of parenting but should go for methods that prove to be fruitful.