How Remote School Affects Parents' Stress and What to Do to Control It

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Now that it is pandemic, daily remote school activities to many parents, especially moms, mean stress. 

The same goes for Mommy Kathy Koester. She has a 7-year-old with special needs. She continually feels judged after an intense day of enticing and encouraging her child to do her remote school activities after receiving an alert about missed tasks. She feels like she is "in trouble."               

Koester from Mundelein, Ill., recognizes that remote school teachers are trying to be supportive, but she still feels criticized, thus stressed. She says, "I am 110 percent engaged [and] giving everything I have. And these constant messages from the classroom app, Seesaw, seem to be saying that my best isn't good enough."

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Recreating remote school and communicating

A psychologist and the author of "Anxiety Relief for Teen, Regine Galanti, says, "The tone or style of a teacher's approach to correcting students can be stressful for parents to overhear." 

Even one of her children's educators "would casually call in Zoom and assume they know the answer, and if not, she wouldn't repeat the query," says Galanti, who heard this as she was working nearby. "As a therapist, my initial response was, don't you realize this was not a suitable way to talk to children?"

Galanti says that "thankfully," most of what she has overheard in remote school has been "supportive and encouraging teaching. But that one rare experience was really eye-opening."

Witnessing our kids' remote school experiences can be jarring for almost all parents, if not all, making it more challenging to be patient and supportive with our children. Thus, creates stress.

Robyn Silverman, a child-development specialist and the host of the known "How to Talk to Kids About Anything Parenting Podcast shared, "We're a fly on the wall in a room we were never meant to be in. 

Also, Silverman added, "When parents overhear a teacher calling on their child when they are unprepared, or when we overhear a negative social interaction with a classmate, they can't help but put themselves right back there to your school days. Silverman has a son in fifth grade and a daughter in sixth grade who are attending remote school at home.

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Tina Payne Bryson, a psychotherapist and co-author of "The Power of Showing Up," says, "As much as possible, we need to separate our kid's experience from our own." She added that if you find yourself flooded with emotion, or your heart races when you see emails from their teacher, you can try to center yourself and separate your experience from your child's," says Bryson.

Nonetheless, parents want to be conscious when their own school experiences stain how they respond to their children's.

The bulk of remote school communications from schools increases stress. However, school leaders and teachers are only trying to keep parents in the loop. So here are a few tips on navigating all the updates and lessening stress.

Try to make a special account for school communication and transfer it all there. You may opt to segment your current inbox to send those notifications to a specific folder.

Lastly, Honeywell advises requesting the first read to a trusted co-parent or friend and partaking them segment with you only on a need-to-know basis.

A remote school must bring our children's classroom experience at home. Let us use this to be informed about our kids and support them. Do not forget that we have to be compassionate for ourselves so we can be the caring for our kids needs now.

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